So you flunked your midterm, didn’t get the job you wanted, or failed to reach your target weight. What are you going to do about it? Who are you going to blame?
Nowadays, the youth tend to feel immediately upset and discouraged once they fail in achieving something. It is even more typical that the youth blame others, situations, or even circumstances instead of taking a thorough look at themselves and contemplating the real reasons for their failures. Many times, if anything is to be blame, it is the youth themselves.
Young individuals seem to assume that if they put all their efforts, they will definitely achieve their goals. Even though there is truth to that, but there’s something equally important they forget about: A person will fail many times before they eventually get what they want and be where they want to be. They key is how well one bounces back after each failure. In other words, they key is one’s attitude and mindset.
To illustrate the importance of a positive attitude and mindset, all what one has to do is take a look at two of the most well-known athletes in the world today: Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi.
These successful athletes did not have an easy journey to become the renowned figures we all know. Cristiano Ronaldo, for example, grew up in a tin-roofed house in a poverty-stricken neighborhood. He lost his father at a fairly young age due to alcohol-related kidney problems. Irrespective of the hardships he faced as a kid, he strived to pursue his passion. Fernao Sousa, Ronaldo’s godfather, stated that the latter “loved the game so much he'd miss meals or escape out of his bedroom window with a ball when he was supposed to be doing his homework." Ronaldo did not dwell on the fact that his living situation made it difficult for him to attain his goals. He worked very hard and overcame numerous setbacks until he was able to join the football academy to later become the star we now know.
Lionel Messi is another success story. Messi suffered from a growth hormone deficiency that restricted his growth. He had to endure hormone injections throughout his childhood and early adolescent years. Nonetheless, he didn’t view this ordeal as a barrier to achieving his dreams nor did he quit football practice out of fear that he was not good enough. Jump a few years later, and he’s one of the greatest players of all time.
So what are we supposed to learn from the above examples? To put it briefly, no one has everything perfectly set out for them. Everyone is struggling in one way or another. Those who manage to achieve success do so because they don’t give up on themselves.
According to Thomas Stanley, the author of “The Millionaire Next Door”, “Successful people […] recognize the fear in what they are doing, but they deal with it. They overcome their fears, that’s why they are successful.” Instead of dismissing certain opportunities or giving up on themselves because they don’t think they’re capable enough or because they’re afraid of failure, they say “I will try”.
It is important to keep in mind that the road to success is not an easy one. There will always be ups and downs. It is whether the person chooses to move forward after each set back that will ultimately distinguish a person from the other.
- Mohammad Hodroj
Petroleum Engineering student